A lot of good things have been happening in all aspects of my life lately, and I sit back and think to myself: “Wow. Life is good. Really, really good.”
My little sisters are doing amazingly well, and we shared a ton of laughs this weekend when Erika visited Ottawa. I look back on happy dinners, walks around downtown and giggling like lunatics during our Saturday night Golden Girls marathon and it warms my heart. My other sister Alice is about to embark on an exciting life change (more to come of that later) and as a proud and bossy big sister, I’m really happy for her (really, just happy that she took my sisterly advice – haha). The hubby is excelling at a job he loves, I’m surrounded by wonderful friends, and I’ve recently landed a new full-time job that is both fulfilling and interesting (they do exist!). Right now, I’m just so thankful to be “Dominique”.
Over the weekend, I had coffee with a fellow blogger who I have admired for years – from a distance. She’s so cool, so put together…I’d look at her photos and wonder what her secret was…if she was scary in real life like other bloggers I’ve met. When she contacted me to grab a coffee, a little part of me felt like I was going for coffee with a celebrity. While part of me was nervous, I was also super excited to learn what made this stylish girl tick. Well, I was floored and thrilled to learn that she was a little bit of a nerd like me, in the same spot in life, was easy to laugh and incredibly easy going. It was refreshing and meeting this girl and getting to know her really cemented the notion that good attracts good. Not that all of this good is about me, but thankfully, I don’t meet a lot of weirdos!
While barreling to work in my car, cursing the slow-as-hell dump truck in front of me, mind-racing with all the stuff I needed to get done before lunch, a homeless person at the side of the road caught my eye. He was walking along with a beautiful, well-taken-cared-for dog and he and the dog were skipping along happily. He was laughing while patting the dog’s head and looking like he was having a blast. And here I was, driving my expensive piece of machinery to my well-paying job, that pays for my nice house, nice clothes, nice vacations and food on the table every day…being a brat because I was stuck behind a slow moving vehicle. I tell ya – he put things into perspective real fast.
All of this to say that I don’t take any of this goodness for granted as much as I used to. I want to keep fostering positivity, meeting like-minded individuals I can learn from, and glean more from not comparing myself to others and learning to love the skin I’m in.
Five tips that keep me happy and in check? Read on:
- I know this may sound crazy (I need to STOP starting sentences with that), but I write down compliments that really hit home. Someone once told me that I had the greatest laugh. It meant a lot…and stopped worrying about my trademark hyena laugh/wail. Every now and then when I’m feeling low, I’ll pull out that list and give myself a little boost.
- I look out at the driveway at my car. It is the most expensive thing I’ve purchased. It’s not the cost that matters, it’s a symbol of two years of hard work and saving that I thought I’d never be able to do. THAT puts a smile on my face.
- I hang out with people I like, and outright avoid the miserable. I’m a good judge of character and I have a memory that doesn’t allow me to forget the negative. I gravitate towards positive happy people who make life fun. Life is too short to waste on perpetual negatrons.
- I look back at how far I’ve come. Life was a little rough growing up and I’m proud of the people that myself and my sisters turned out to be. We are all incredibly hard workers and made great lives for ourselves. We had strong support systems to guide us through life, and I’m so proud of the decisions we’ve made that have secured us great livings.
- I make time for things and people that matter to me. I take time to screw around in the garden, to workout, to kiss and feel up my husband (naughty), to laugh with my sisters, to goof off with my glamourous besties, to write, to cook, to pet the neighbours dog…these little things mean so much to cultivate happiness!
I invite you all to share with me what keeps you going. What makes you happy? What puts a smile on your face? How do you keep yourself in check and live your best life? Comments are open!
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